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Free Will – 2 Viewpoints That Miss The Mark

Do I need to find a new class of friends, or what? I mean, who ends up having two conversations about free will in one week?!

Then again, having those conversations has given me the material for this little rant, right? So maybe I should be happy about it. I suppose I’m free to choose how

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Happy – More than one way to get there?

What is Happy?

A stupid-arse question, or deep philosophical point? Ironically (sagaciously?) the answer determines the value of the question.

Go to Walt Disney World. The happiest place on earth. If that’s your answer, then it’s stupid-arse question. But thanks for playing. 🙂

Live a good life, try to do good things, and treat people the way you want to be treated. Warm and snuggly, yes. Maybe even noble. But it still makes the question

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No Apology? Because it’s weakness?

Weakness my arse! I’ve met far too many people terrified to give an apology. “I’m sorry” are two of the hardest – and most powerful – words we can ever say.

Mark Harmon – a.k.a. Leroy Jethro Gibbs on NCIS – has a lot of rules to live by. One of them is this idea that you should never

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Happiness is No Nap Required

Everyone’s happiness comes in a different shape. Today, mine is in the shape of not needing a nap. 🙂

Tomorrow makes four weeks that I’ve been working on the farm. I’ve lost almost 15 pounds (that’s another whole kind of happiness), it’s great to be working outside again, and everyone has been cool about helping me get settled in. So I’m liking being here. But I have to admit it’s hard work. My body has been sore, and I’ve needed a nap every afternoon – for an hour to an hour and a half.

A funny side note – We had really bad

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Happiness Means Moving Forward

Ever notice how easy it is to get distracted and side tracked? Especially when it’s away from something that’s hard to do anyway? Sure. We’ve all had it happen.

For me, it’s this new job on the farm. I’ve been here 11 days, and I think it’s great. But…

The first distraction was the pain. I mean real, “Oh shite,” my body hurts pain. 🙂 You have to admit it’s kind of funny. Since June 2007 I’ve been sitting my arse in a chair writing. The heaviest thing I’ve had to lift is myself to go get something else to eat.

Now I’m hoisting 60 and 70 pound tubs of

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Do Horses Make Happiness?

It’s a whole week since I last posted! Actually, 8 days; and I blame it all on the horses :-). It feels like a lot longer than that because so much has happened. May I fill you in?

The ad said “Horse Farm Help.” Since I grew up around standard bred race horses, I decided to apply. Keep in mind that I’ve applied for about three dozen jobs since March without hearing back from any of them. I’ve been using it as a guide for whether to keep working on this book project.

You see, I figure if God wants me to keep working on this book then jobs

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Getting Happy with Horses

Getting Happy on a day-to-day basis is fairly basic. It starts in the morning with being grateful for the little things we all tend to take for granted. But that’s also a basic level of getting happy.

Like everybody, I am actually seeking something better than just being happy for good health and a place to sleep. I’ll come back to this idea in a second…

Last week, I interviewed for a position on a horse farm. Coincidentally, the position is basic, too. 🙂  The job is to walk 11 horses out to the paddocks, clean their stalls, and bring them back in. It’s 6 days a week – Monday through Saturday. Pretty basic, right?

Well, it turns out that – out of more than two

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Grateful – to be or not to be

This morning I woke up grateful. I literally woke up feeling grateful for a roof over my head, blankets and a pillow, beautiful weather, and a host of other things.

That was today. Friday and Saturday were very different. And that’s what has me thinking about whether it’s genuinely useful to

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Kickstarter Feedback and Progress

Lots of folks are giving feedback on the Kickstarter for Getting Happy.

Wondering what Kickstarter is? I did too until a friend turned me onto it. Then I asked David at Morgan James Publishing about the site. He likes it, and some MJP have had success with Kickstarter.

It’s a crowd-funding site. You put your project up – in this case, it’s Getting Happy – and ask people to back the project. I decided to go this

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Does Divorce Ever End?

Yvette and I had our last hearing over the property settlement for our divorce yesterday. It was nothing spectacular, but it did get me thinking.

We’re divorced. As much as I would like us to get back together, I really don’t think that’s going to happen.

Yvette and I have chosen different courses of action. Once you choose a course, you develop commitment to it and you build up mental