Feeling fated to fail is an unhappy, common feeling. I felt that way for a big part – maybe most – of my life. And there’s a cure.
What do you do when projects fail even though you’ve done everything right? Or when you do everything you can, but someone else fails to perform or outright torpedoes you? I’ve asked these questions dozens of times. I asked them every time a project failed because I wanted there to be something, someone, other than me to blame for things going wrong.
Our self-image defines and limits our possibilities. The only way to lose self-imposed limits is by changing the self-image.
So what is the self-image? It’s your sub-conscious picture of who you are, what you’re capable of, and what you deserve. We make it from things we’ve been told about ourselves, past experiences, and beliefs we’ve developed about ourselves.
The name “psycho-cybernetics” doesn’t turn my crank. The psycho-cybernetics impact on my life makes me more tolerant of the name.
Today is my birthday, and I’m looking back at 47 years of living. There are happy, sad, negative, positive, angry, and joyful memories. While talking with Sandi after the writer’s workshop, I told her I cherish all the memories. Sure, there’s a natural part of me that would like to have skipped over the bad stuff, but I recognise and appreciate that I would not be the man I am without ALL of my experiences.
Everyone wants Peak Performance. We want to beat the competition, grab the brass ring, and have everyone see us as successful, right? But what happens if our best use of peak performance is to live a happy, confident, and satisfied life?
You see, I think the two go hand in hand. There’s not much point being Willie Robertson or Willie Nelson, if you’re not happy. Whether your goal is to be a better parent, make more money, or just have more friends, these 6 master keys
Psycho-cybernetics sounds like something from the Borg and Star Trek, right? It was decades ahead of every other concept of self-development when Dr. Maltz developed it in the 1950’s. But it isn’t science fiction. It’s a real, practical way for us to achieve happiness and self-confidence.
Maxwell Maltz’s First Career
Dr. Maltz started as a plastic surgeon. Plastic surgery was a new, almost unheard of
Dr. Maxwell Maltz
medical discipline, in the 1930’s. Maltz even had to travel to Europe to complete his training.
As he treated patients, Maltz removed scars and gave people the new, beautiful faces they wanted. Yet he also noticed that some people had no change in how they saw themselves. The physical scar was removed, but some Continue reading →
My self-image controls all the sub-conscious choices that determine my behavior and body language. Self-image strength training gives me an edge for getting happy.
When my self-image is strong and positive, I perform well at school or work, get along well with others, and frequently achieve my goals. A weak self-image broadcasts itself as timidity, lack of confidence, and even self-loathing.
First, let me share the seven most powerful words for self-image strength training. Then we’ll look at three simple components of self-image strength training.
7 Most Powerful Self-Image Strength Training Words
Inviting someone to spend a holiday with your family is not always the kindhearted act you think it is. Sometimes that holiday kindness hurts.
You already know my family was a less-than-positive environment. I was the third child in a family with two children, and never allowed to forget it. So you can be sure that the holidays were not a particularly joyous thing. Sure, we celebrated Christmas, Thanksgiving, Halloween, and other holidays. For me, every one of them was laced with Continue reading →